Why I work with men
Men face particular challenges. Many of us were raised to handle everything alone, to keep feelings out of sight and to measure ourselves by what we provide. Those patterns can quietly damage how a man sees himself and the health of his closest relationships.
I’ve spent years working with men as individuals, and I have training and hands-on experience in men’s groups, retreats and workshops. What I’ve learned is simple: earlier hurts leave layers of fear, doubt and shame, and when a man has a steady, non-judgmental place to look at them, he can start to see what still has value and choose new ways of thinking and responding.
My work is practical and warm. You won’t get a lecture or a diagnosis. You’ll get someone who listens closely, says things plainly and gives you tools you can use the same week.
How I work
Sessions are one-on-one and combine conversation with methods I’ve trained in. I explain each one before we use it, and nothing happens that you haven’t agreed to.
- Hypnotherapy
- Guided meditation and relaxation
- Cognitive behavioral tools
- Inner child work
- Ceremony and ritual exercises
- Talk-based counseling
Hypnotherapy is the part of my work that is registered with the State of Washington. I use it to help men reach a calm, focused state where it is easier to work on stress, worry, confidence and habits. More on how I work and on hypnotherapy.
Who I work with, and when I refer
I work with adult men, one-on-one, by secure video (Zoom) or by phone. Online sessions are for clients who are located in Washington State at the time of each session. Men usually come to me about stress and burnout, relationship distance, communication, trust, separation, fathering, grief, anger, confidence, life transitions and compulsive habits.
I am not a licensed mental health counselor, psychologist or physician, and I don’t diagnose or prescribe. If what you’re dealing with calls for medical care, a licensed mental health professional or a certified specialist, I’ll tell you so directly and help you find one. Many men use my sessions alongside that care.
Faith and spirituality, only if you want it
Spirituality has been part of my own life. I am Reiki certified and an ordained reverend, and my degree is in metaphysical sciences. Some men want that dimension in their sessions and some don’t. Either is fine: we keep the work practical and go where you want it to go.
Writing
I write about men and relationships. As an Executive Contributor to Brainz Magazine I wrote “Why Is Communication Important In Relationships?”, about why the way partners talk and listen shapes everything else. The ideas behind it run through my communication page.